Many women in their 40s quietly wonder if their marriage is falling apart.

They feel resentful, exhausted, disconnected — sometimes even trapped.

They snap at their partner, avoid intimacy, or feel like nothing he does is ever enough.

Meanwhile, their partner feels helpless and confused. He thinks he’s doing everything wrong, and he doesn’t understand why the woman he loves seems so unhappy.

When someone books in for coaching with me, they usually arrive with a clear idea of what they want to work on. Maybe it’s a relationship challenge, a big decision weighing on their mind, or one of those curveballs that life loves to throw at us.

When my first marriage fell apart, I felt both sides of the coin. One side was heavy with failure, abandonment, and worthlessness. The other side glimmered with excitement and freedom. I had the chance to redo what I once thought was the biggest mistake of my life.

That’s the thing about endings. They rarely feel simple. They are a collision of grief and relief, fear and hope, loss and possibility.